Husband and I went to see “Fireproof” on Friday and it was a GREAT movie! WOW, so nice to watch a movie with Christian values and a realllllly relevant topic – marriage.
If you don’t know, it’s a movie about a fireman, Caleb, who is in the beginning stages of a divorce. Both he and his wife are strong willed and disrespectful to one another. Caleb’s father gives him a book called “The Love Dare” and asks his son if he is willing to save his marriage. Caleb wants to save it…and begins 40 days of “Love Dares” to try to win back his wife. It isn’t easy. His wife is not receptive to his attempts to show he loves her. Caleb wants to quit several times – but his father continues to encourage him.
I won’t spoil the ending…but it’s a good one. This movie left me in tears. It has a great soundtrack, including the song from my last blog, “Love is Not A Fight”. Husband and I sat through all the credits and we both cried, the movie mirrored a lot of the stuff we went through in the last 2 years; we could see ourselves in both the husband and wife: wanting to reconcile the marriage but struggling with pride and not knowing if our efforts would succeed.
I read an article in a magazine last night about a woman that had been through soooo much grief. She lost two husbands – one to cancer and one to AIDS. And her way of dealing with each death was amazing.
She grew closer to her first husband; the one with cancer. They didn’t have the best relationship to begin with but during his years-long fight with cancer they both started to lean on one another. Their marriage turned around completely. The second husband to pass – the one with AIDS – was a wonderful marriage from the beginning, they had wonderful communication and it just stayed that way through his final years as well. She enjoyed every minute. She savored those times when they just sat together – him napping, her crocheting.
My husband and I had a good talk the other night and I apologized for taking my grief out on him. He said he was running on hope that things would get better between us. And I assured him that I was not going anywhere. In fact, when I was feeling like I wanted to run – I was reminded of that wonderful song by Warren Barfield called “Love is Not A Fight“. I love that song, I shared it with my myspace friends. It is so beautiful and the words are so SOLID. I recited lyrics from the song to my husband – and it was just a moment of real humility and selflessness. Here is the song – listen and read the lyrics…
My husband said he knew that he could feel sadness and joy at the same time – he was sad, but we both have hope. We both have a commitment to eachother. We’re doing a lot better. I love my husband – I’m not going to let my grief distract me from the commitment I made to my marriage. And we’re not who we were a couple years ago…we’re better.
