Had A Bad Day
12 May 2009 Leave a Comment
in 1 Tags: bad day, crisis, divorce, separation
A couple that we’ve been friends with have been having trouble. Big time marital trouble. We’ve made ourselves available to this couple to listen, to share, and to just encourage them. If my marriage could survive then surely their’s could. It’s a whole long story but sufficed to say – there have been years of issues building up and it was becoming harder and harder for this couple to break their horrible power struggle. In the middle of this mess are 3 young children that have been dragged into very adult problems – and it breaks my heart. The two adults in their lives are behaving irrationally and selfishly, not bothering to protect the hearts of their children. It has been a mess.
So today I’m looking at my Facebook and this couple…the husband actually…decided to play out some very private matters in a very public way. He found photos that his wife had sent to another man. They were NOT appropriate. He forwarded the pictures to their friends and family and then he posted details of this for all to see. It was shocking. It was heartbreaking. It was the wrong thing to do.
So I reached out to the wife and we met up for a meal and to catch up. She and I had been attending a Saturday night service together and I had not seen her in a while. I felt guilty that I hadn’t done a better job keeping in touch.
How to act? What to say? How do I advocate for the children? How to I confront my friend – in LOVE. I prayed. I prayed for the words to say.
In our conversation she told me that her husband showed the photos to her children and explained the pictures in detail. It was appalling. It was horrifying to me – that he would be so angry that he would put the children through that. Insanity!! I tried to be a friend, I tried to listen. But I was so overcome with confusion and sadness.
My heart is so heavy. I am worn out with grief over what is happening to this family, that these two people are hurting and that their marriage will likely end because they can’t see any way to fix it…. That these children are put in the middle of these two – fighting, angry and bitter – and no one seems to want to jump in and say “ENOUGH!!!!”
I can’t fix everything but I sooooo want to…..
Husband…continued
09 Aug 2008 Leave a Comment
in My Striking Life, Random Ramblings of a Striking Diva Tags: husband, prayer, separation
I talked with hubby today and he is soooo ready to come back to Wyoming. We’re both trying to make sure that everything he needs to do gets done, and that includes getting his truck fixed – it has been known to overheat and the last thing we need is for him to break down on the way here…. Been there, done that, it’s no fun. He also leads a Men’s Group back in WA and he would like to do one more group meeting and say his official goodbyes.
But he really wants to come back and I think we’re both just really missing eachother’s company.
We also didn’t have the opportunity to pray together since I saw him last (Tuesday) so tonight we prayed together on the phone and that was nice. I really missed it. And I just thanked the Lord for giving us the desire to spend time together, to share our new experiences with one another, and to be humble enough to say it out loud to one another.
God has really restored our marriage. And this distance between us has really made us appreciate eachother more and more. I love that man of mine.
