Husband…continued

I talked with hubby today and he is soooo ready to come back to Wyoming.  We’re both trying to make sure that everything he needs to do gets done, and that includes getting his truck fixed – it has been known to overheat and the last thing we need is for him to break down on the way here….  Been there, done that, it’s no fun.  He also leads a Men’s Group back in WA and he would like to do one more group meeting and say his official goodbyes.

But he really wants to come back and I think we’re both just really missing eachother’s company. 

We also didn’t have the opportunity to pray together since I saw him last (Tuesday) so tonight we prayed together on the phone and that was nice.  I really missed it.  And I just thanked the Lord for giving us the desire to spend time together, to share our new experiences with one another, and to be humble enough to say it out loud to one another.

God has really restored our marriage.  And this distance between us has really made us appreciate eachother more and more.  I love that man of mine.

Husband Home???

My husband is back in Washington taking care of some last minute things but his workplace let him know that he doesn’t need to be there, he just needs to call to let them know he’s alive.  So….he’s thinking about coming back to Wyoming early!  I’m really happy about this possibility…stressing “POSSIBILITY” because it may not end up working out this way.  But today, before talking with him, I was really missing him and really wishing he was here to get to know our new surroundings…together.  I love the man and want to share all of my days (and nights…we’re married!!) with him.

 

I really feel that God is showing me how to be patient, to pray the right way – for HIS will and not my own.  If I am to go through these next few weeks without my husband then there is truly a reason to do so – perhaps to build trust, or maybe there’s work that he needs to do there in Washington, a friend might need help or a word of encouragement.  I may need to work on being more outgoing and willing to step out and do things on my own, without depending so heavily on my husband. 

 

I don’t wish to become independent.   I’ve done that – and it lead to my husband and I leading separate lives.  I love having him close to me, I enjoy spending time with him and trusting him to make decisions for our family. 

Daily Bread

Dear Heavenly Father,

Lord, you blessed me so richly this weekend – and during a time when I was tired and overwhelmed with all of the stuff I had to do – you reminded me that you are still on the throne.  Just that phrase alone was enough to change my perception of my day.

Thank you for bringing my best friend to Washington this weekend – thank you for a time of sharing and hopefully I was able to be a listening ear.  I’m so pleased that you are bringing her into ministry and that she is really feeling called to her church even though there are obstacles to overcome.  But mostly, I thank you for putting her in my life long before I ever knew I would need her so much.  You are amazing God.

Lord, thank you for my perfect partner, my wonderful husband.  I am so grateful to you for bringing him to me, for blessing our home with him and our girls – my family is so good and doing so well.  Help me to be the right kind of wife and mother.

Lord, I have been having troubles in my thought life – doubting our move, having hurt feelings over the way some things were handled with friends, and feeling like a bad friend when it comes to a certain person in my life who is in need.  Lord, I know you have a plan for me.  I know you are watching over me and still teaching me the type of person I need to be.  Help me not to judge, and help me to understand and forgive.

You are an awesome God.  Thank you for loving us so much….In Jesus Name….Amen

Being the Good Wifey

This is such a crazy time we live in.  Being a good wife and partner is just such a clash of old school and new school.  There’s the domestic piece that seems soooooo submissive and Pollyanna-ish.  There’s the new world attitude of “get over yourself” or “what have you done for me lately?”

My husband woke up crabby and I didn’t get up when he did – I had been getting up and having a little morning pep talk with him but today – I slept in.  Later he emailed me and said he was feeling crabby and work wasn’t making things any better, plus he had to work late. 

So what does the good wifey do??  Tell him to suck it up?  Ignore it until he got over himself?  Well….I had to think on it.  And I decided to make life as easy for him as possible when he got home.  I cleaned up, tended to the kiddos (who pretty much tend themselves these days), ran the dishwasher, prepped for dinner, folded and put away laundry. 

This might be ‘everyday’ maintenance for some people – for me it is NOT.  It was actually a little bit on the “June Cleaver” spectrum – and it was uncharted territory.  But like anyone else, I figured he’d enjoy coming home to a clean house and a good meal.  We had steak and salad, I gave him free reign of the remote, and I basically let him have an evening to do whatever he wanted and I left him at it.  Eventually he came upstairs and we watched some TV together before he fell asleep.  We prayed together and that was nice.  He loves me and I feel like he appreciated my efforts – but I didn’t expect any atta girl stuff.  I just wanted to be the right kind of person.

So I don’t know why I care if people think I’m doing the old school wife thing.  It’s my life right?  I’m not a doormat, I’m very well taken care of, I’m supported and loved in everything that I choose to do.  I can be a good wife and still be a modern woman, right???  And yet, while I’m folding the laundry I’m thinking “Am I being a punk here?  Shouldn’t I be shopping or doing something fabulous with other fabulous women?”

Ugh….men don’t have this kind of dilemma, do they?